Thursday, November 19, 2009

Why curiosity killed the cat?

Why curiosity killed the cat? Was curiosity there in the first place?
Why do we like to open closed doors? Do we have the time to open closed doors?
Why do we like to cross our limits? Do we have courage to cross it?
Why are rules broken? This one is easy .. rules are meant to be broken na..
All questions are asked in different contexts but mean the same.

Along with the adage "curiosity killed the cat" there is another which says "curiosity on one hand killed the cat and on the other lead to inventions"


There is more curiosity in girls than in boys because more doors are closed for them than for boys. Yes, the world has changed and now both genders are given an equal platform/opportunities, but i don't believe it fully, theoretically it is true but not practically. Some limits are still there, will always be there and rightly so.
But i will not go into this now.

We as children are always told to do this and not do that and rules are to be followed, no matter what. This I believe strangles the creative quality or risk taking quality of a person. Some of us abide and live a life following a rulebook and hence may live peacefully but an unfulfilled life nonetheless. There is always a sigh at the end of the day, and that is so full of wishes like, "had i done this or that it would have been so different, wish i had tried it once, i wish i wasn't so scared in trying it, etc etc."
While some of us would have an indomitable spirit and would try to do things their own way or differently. These are mostly the people our history books are made of. Now here there is a success rate, not all is successful, i would say very few are, some meet with success rightaway, while some may only pave the way for the future and someone else may carry forward the work and get the reward. The gain is both of mental satisfaction and financial success. Some people like facing challenges and try to do it only because they are curious about it. These people may not do it for any benefit but only because they wouldn't let any stone unturned and have the satisfaction of trying it even if they failed. Such people are not afraid of failure and are quite adventurous in nature.
The risk of doing things differently are greater than just following everyone. When one starts off initially one has to face a lot of criticism and negative remarks from people, then comes the actual part of doing anything new or differently. A lot of people just drop out from the sheer lack of will power to go on and achieve what one set out to be ...
After being unsuccessful a person undergoes a mental stress and may or may not be able to go on in life as before. Although failures can be the pillars of success, it is not easy to deal with failure..Here it means that curiosity killed the cat..

On the other hand, if a person has a stronger will power and determination and most importantly faith in themselves, they stumble then get up and try again and again, till they have achieved their objective. They are innovators or leaders who pave the way for many of us to follow, hence the addition.. on the other hand leads to inventions.

We all like to do something new and unique in our hearts but so much rules right from the time we start walking, may have in more ways than one stopped the human race from advancing too fast too soon.

As I conclude there is one more aspect which has come to the fore and that is about our limits or rules which control our curious nature.
I think rules are good for everyone, but we need to recognise our own strength and see for ourselves how much of the rules should be applied and where it can be altered to suit our needs.
More than the curiosity sometimes i think the rules killed the cat before curiosity even had a chance to kill it ..

Any other view?



Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Why is the other side greener?

You want things you dont get
you get things you dont want;
When you get what you want
you dont want it anymore;
Thats life..


While grazing grass, the animals move deeper into the fields.
The grass looks so green and fresh on the other side.

While in a relationship, either couple move towards newer partners.
There comes a time in marriage or live-ins that both of them get fed up of each other.

After buying anything we soon find out something better has come in the market.
We soon loose value of what we have and want the next "IN" thing asap.

Then we tend to leave what we have and go on to other things, people, grass.

In this fast moving world, has the old adage lost its meaning? "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush!"

Why do we want more and more? Whay cant we be satisfied with what we have.

I have found that what is with me is not my pride but its surely the neighbours envy ( sorry copied from the onida ad)

When we come to know that the neighbours envy what we have then we are a bit more contented.

Is our happiness relative to the pain of our neighbours?

Why do we buy things which we dont need but only because others have it?

I guess the only good it does is to spur the growth of the economy, but at what cost ?

In the good olden days, one house had one car, one tv with one national channel, even one toilet.

No one cribbed then , there were more joint families then than now!
What is the world coming to ?
What will the outcome of this be?
What kind of life are we teaching the children to lead?
Anyone answers??

I have one answer which a friend kindly obliged me with, which is, that we have started evaluating ourselves based on what we have (consume) rather than what we do (produce). The more we spend the better we feel. In economics this nature is called, "Conspicuous consumption" which means spending lavishly on expensive things, not for self use but more for the display of wealth, to show our capability of consuming more!!!